7 Tips from Motorcycles for Healthy Relationships

No one is an island. Not even a free-spirited, independent motorcycle rider. The relationship between motorcycle and rider teaches you how to create healthy, interdependent relationships.

Without a rider, the bike just sits there. And without a bike, the rider walks. Or finds another form of transportation–which likely pales in comparison to the joy and exhilaration of a motorcycle ride.

7 Tips from Motorcycles for Healthy Relationships

Set Healthy Boundaries

Each partner is a distinct being with clear, healthy boundaries. You have your own source of power, origin and can function independently.

Respect Your Uniqueness

Each partner has unique characteristics and needs. A motorcycle is a very different entity than its rider. It looks different and operates differently. Motorcycles teach us the needs of both partners must be met if the relationship is going to go anywhere. While they may not be on the same schedule, if one needs refueling, you’ve got to stop and replenish the energy. Otherwise you both stop.

Focus on Common Ground

Unique in your own right, you are drawn together by a common purpose, cause or passion. You still have interests outside the relationship, but your common interests have drawn you together.

Perfect Communication Skills

In order to communicate in a meaningful way, both partners must actively listen, focus on the moment, pay attention to nonverbal signals and remain open to the needs and desires of the other.

Appreciate Your Differences

As you get to know each other, you become more aware of the other’s strengths and shadows. If you’re open and receptive, by understanding each other, you also learn about yourself. This enables you to grow as individuals and as partners.

Develop Tolerance

It’s not always comfortable. There are times when you need to be willing to tolerate discomfort to get to your destination. Patience, compassion and keeping your eye on the goal can get you there

Expect Evolution

Being unique beings, you have your own life path, as well as the one you share. Recognize that change in one affects the dynamics of the relationship and the road can get rough while things are resolved. As you gain awareness, self-confidence and trust in your partner, you naturally evolve to more challenging roads and situations. Your experiences together become richer and more gratifying.

Interdependent, health relationships are far more fulfilling than those where partners are independent, dependent or co-dependent. Look for these characteristics and apply them to your own close relationships. It enriches your life, your Road and those you share it with.

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