Heartbreaking Endings and Exciting Beginnings
by Liz Jansen
I didn’t expect to start the first days of the year spending the last days with a dear friend.
Deb and I met in fifth grade and became instant best friends. We’ve cherished that closeness our whole lives. We’ve shared graduations, marriages, divorces, jobs, job losses, the births and weddings of her precious daughters, the arrival of her grandchildren, and the deaths of our fathers.
Our life paths took us in different directions but no matter how much time had passed, we’d pick up where we left off without missing a beat. We lived a couple of hours apart but would chat at least weekly, usually while I was on my evening walk.
For the past year, she cared for her husband at home until it was impossible. He was on the wing of the hospital my dad was admitted to and passed away in November, a month after dad.
When Deb’s symptoms appeared, it was easy to attribute them to her physical and emotional exhaustion. We had only a few short days last week to learn about the nature and gravity of her illness and prepare for her passing.
I was honored to spend those days with her, her daughters, sister, and others in her family.
Few are fortunate to have such friendships and I’ll cherish Deb and our memories forever. They’re comforting, but it’s still going to take time to sink in. Her greatest legacy is her two daughters. Loving, confident, and beautiful in all ways, they’ll continue to be a part of my life.
Even in grief and heartbreak, there is light.
As 2017 drew to a close, I knew it was time to begin integrating an Energy Medicine practice into my writing time.
With access to a beautiful healing space at the yoga studio I attend in Orangeville, Ontario, I’m doing that formally onsite, as well as virtually. My approach blends wisdom and experience from a background as a Registered Nurse, Corporate Human Resources Professional, and a million miles of motorcycle travel. The shamanic Energy Medicine practices I’ve trained for beginning in 2013 are the most recent addition to this medicine bag.
Clients contact me because they’re feeling stuck, lonely, going through major life transitions, or feeling unfulfilled. Together, we unravel the stories we tell ourselves, the stories we’ve embraced, and stories that have been passed down for generations—stories we’re often not aware we’re carrying. By recognizing and changing them, clients transform their lives. My personal experience with coming to terms with ancestral stories is the heart of the upcoming Crash Landing.
These practices and techniques assist clients to discover their gifts, create meaning in their lives, and step into their fullest potential. It’s a natural progression of the personal empowerment work I’ve practiced for years.
The world needs all our gifts. By using them, we change the world, not by changing others but by transforming ourselves.
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So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend as well as your father Liz. Hugs to you.
Thanks Karen. Both dad and Deb were big blessings and big losses. Life can catch up with us quickly. Glad you’re out there living it with gusto!!
Liz the death of your lifelong friend is heartbreaking. I am however pleased to learn that you are using your life experiences, work, intuition to help others to see their way to a more positive future.
Thank you Mary. Life is full of twists and turns, isn’t it?
Oh Liz. I am so sorry to hear about the death of your friend Deb.
Grief comes at us in so many guises. It’s strange how the death of a friend isn’t always covered in all the literature.
They always talk about our spouses, parents, children, but a friend’s death is a different kind of familial dying.
It is a horrible loss. I’m so glad you were there to be part of that ending.
Sending you big hugs from the West Coast.
Thank you. I thought of you Colleen because you went through something similar not so long ago. This was just so fast. I was glad to be there for Deb and the girls too, and now to be with the girls. It’s been a very special time with them. It’s affected me in ways I wouldn’t have imagined. Tomorrow is only a week since she’s been gone. Much appreciate the West Coast hugs.
Oh no Liz, I’m so sorry you lost your father & dear friend Deb. End of the year holidays bring family & friends together. Must’ve been a very painful time for you. Yet your strength & resolve always shine through. Being supportive of those around you is a tremendous blessing. Thank you for all you do & hugs for your heart!
Thanks Maryann. You are the embodiment of resilience. Thank you for your inspiration.